Perception.

Curiosities.

How tall are you?

6'1½" (1.87m)

Oh, wow. I wouldn't have guessed that. You don't look that tall.

Yeah, my body proportions make me appear shorter unless standing next to the person. My brothers compound that as almost all of them are over 6' (1.83m); so I appear average in photos with them.

But you're skinny, right?

Proportionately, yes; however I'm actually larger than most men. My waist is the size of the average American male's chest, and my shoulders are wider than my bodybuilder friends'. Even my hands are large, they're the size of a person's head, and I can support most women's bottom with one hand.

Large? That's huge! haha. Do you know your measurements?

hrm, I wonder if this is how women feel when men inquire, lol. I'm kidding, the questions are fine, no question is ever off limits. -- Yes, I do. Excluding the thumb my palm is 4.5" (11.43cm) wide, from base to fingertip is 10" (25.4cm) long. [edit, added: average international male runway model height: 6'0" (1.83m), chest: 36" (91.44cm), waist: 28" (71.12cm). Average American male height: 5'7" (1.706m), hence I find most men tiny as their chest / waist is proportionate to their height. I am a former model, but would be considered overweight now] My chest is 42" (106.68cm), waist: 35" (88.9cm), and sorry I do not know my hip size, lol. But I know others. ;)

haha. I bet. And I also bet its hard to find clothes that fit you!

Not really. I'm like a woman in many regards, but that surely isn't one of them, lol. Mens sizes are more generic, we don't have to worry about things fitting our ass correctly. However, I solely wear suits; so for me it's a bit different.

You only wear suits?

lol, yes. Well, not exactly. If running out to the store to get breakfast, I'll go out in my pajamas. However, my casual / normal attire is a suit.

Do you wear suits because of work?

No. Most associates say I'm over-dressed. But it's relative, as for me, 'dressy' means wearing a tie; which I barely do. Even 'dress shoes' for me would be a formal derby shoe, which I barely wear. My attire is more like 'casual dressy'.

That's interesting. Do like any particular designers?

I solely wear Armani, down to the square cut briefs / trunks. The most I deviate, is that I'll go through the entire Armani line (eg. Collezioni, Emporio, Exchange, etc).

Why Armani?

The design sense is clean, appeals to me, and is consistent. As a Taurean, I'm sensual and a creature of habit (read as: sometimes stubborn, lol). I don't like experimenting with myself, but love shopping for women as the greater selection is more appealing ('finding' something to wear for a woman, is fun). Women's attire focuses more on the cut, and fabric than menswear. But as a sensual male, how something feels on the skin and moves is very important. When shopping for women, I walk around touching everything. I'd never put something on a woman's body that doesn't feel good, nor would I do so with myself. Armani consistently feels pleasant to the touch.

That's sexy!

lol, I'm genuinely glad that you think so, as most instead find it pretentious. However, I'm not prissy nor fussy. I even sit on the sidewalk as is, for a suit to me is no different than jeans. -- Oh, and speaking of 'sexy', please be not offended by my flirtation, I am a natural flirt. But it's playful flirtation.

Aww so you're not attracted to me?

No, I am, but that's beside the point! lol. -- Attraction does not speak for desire. Walking down the street an old woman can prompt me to stare at her curiously. That is attraction, but it does not say that I desire her. My desire is to merely discern / look. -- I state my true desires clearly, seriously, and do not like to mislead.

So what do you want with me?

Nothing more than this. It's rare that I ever desire more than what is. However, should that ever change I'll be sure to let you know. Otherwise, no worries. I mean what I say, and speak precisely.

I can tell. it makes me wonder what you do.

That my dear is a very long story, even if I were to merely give a list.

Aren't you in the fashion industry?

I am, by proxy. But there are many more things that I do professionally.

Describe your fashion involvement in three words.

Three? Hrm. -- Facilitator, Advisor, Developer.

K... elaborate on those.

I assist companies, and fashion professionals in achieving their goals. As a corporate strategist I sit in on board meetings, and tell the chairman the plan of action. I am usually the personal advisor of said chairman, and such is my role with individuals. I also advise fashion models, photographers, and designers. I also train / mentor some.

Oh my, that's a big deal!

To me, it's not really. It merely sounds significant. However, such is in part why I do not mislead. To be in my position, is to be trusted. I try to never betray that trust. If I mislead someone that trusts it can have very detrimental results for them professionally and personally.

I see. Do you have any advice for me?

That's far too ambiguous, my true advice is always specific / focused. However, for the sake of acquiescing, simply: don't do what I do.

What do you mean?

Umm, I said what I mean.

hahaa, but that was general! Elaborate please.

It was general, because I meant it in regard to everything!! lol. However, jokes aside, and more specifically: don't be so open. The more successful the person, the more they'll know what they want, and will exactingly pursue what they want, for objectivity reigns in this industry. Simply, most people will not truly care for the details, if they do, they'll ask.

Your appealing personality will take you far, but only if you can balance that with such objectiveness. If you're busy defining your own rules or giving what you want based on what you feel / think, that subjectivity will merely hurt you. For such reflects inability. Instead, become effective. Put aside your personal feelings, and excel at giving people what they want.

I can see why people go to you for advice. Sometimes we're treated like whores meant to please clients. I never liked it. But the way you put it, I see why it shouldn't bother me. I wouldn't hire someone that can't do their job. Their reasons don't matter when I can just hire someone else. Hearing complaints is pointless.

Exactly. Some people interpret that as them being expendable. Granted, they are, but still, such a perspective without acceptance, merely fosters insecurity.

Yeah, I'm feeling insignificant now.

lol. Well, we are all expendable to some degree. However, despite expendability understand ... you are a privilege. If someone seeks you, and wants to work with you, they are fortunate. But, so are you.

Reflect that fortune. Do not make it a difficult or unpleasant experience for them, because that will become misfortune. Instead, get the job done, and allow yourself to enjoy it without judgment / ridicule. Then you'll cease to be a desire, and will become a need. -- See?

Yes, and I agree. Thank you.

You're welcome, always. =*